A 9 year old should definitely not being wearing heavy perfume, makeup and grown-up clothes. I think it's a real problem, and her Mom is completely irresponsible to encourage her to dress in this way. Kids already grow up too fast now and are exposed to things they shouldn't even know about. In the community I live in there is a girl who started wearing revealing, tight clothes, had her hair high-lighted and acted like a teenager when she was in 3rd grade. She's now going into 7th grade, she's sexually active and often seen walking around with groups of boys. Since your step-daughter's Mom obviously has no sense, then it's up to you and your husband to keep her from this kind of behavior when she is with you. If possible then your husband should discuss this issue with his ex and let her know how strongly he feels about it and why he feels that way. I have a feeling she won't listen to him, but it's worth a try. In the mean time just be sensible, stick to your rules and explain to her why you don't allow it and let her know there is no compromising on this issue.Do you think its okay for 9 year olds to wear heavy perfume, makeup, and grown-up clothes?
No that attracts child peopile.I think you should stop her before it gets worse.Like she get rape.I do not wish that on anybody thogh.But it can happen.
Not even close to appropriate for a 9 year old! For dress up, yes, not for everyday! Not even for 14 year olds! Even I don't wear that much and I'm about 4 times older than her.
I'd be more concerned about the clothes than the perfumed stuff and make up. Girls are getting into cosmetics earlier these days. I guess they find it fun to put on and ';change'; their appearance. Wearing revealing clothing is a little more concerning because its just going to get worse as she gets older. Choose your battles wisely. (I'd choose the clothing battle before it gets outta control).
heaven's no, i am 18 a dont wear that kind of stuff.
I think your doing it right. I have a 9 year old also and I will let her buy lip gloss and maybe some blush or eyeshadow but she is not allowed to wear heavy makeup out anywhere. She is allowed to wear lip gloss and a little bit of smell good sprays but nothing over whelming.
She is definately not allowed to wear revealing clothes at all. Its really scary how young kids are wanting to do these things. I was still playing with babydolls at this age.
Its got to be really hard when her mom lets her do all this and then fighting with you and your husband because you won't let her. Hang in there, your doing the right thing.
I dont think its ok for a 9 year old to be wearing that kind of stuff. However what I do know is that the younger generation is loosing their ';innocence'; much earlier that adults who are %26lt;15 years older than them.
It is hard when her mother is allowing her to wear that kind of stuff, but try to find other ways to persuade her against it. Try asking what other girls wear in class, try taking her out to make up stores and go shopping with her and allow her to buy clothing and make up and perfume however it has to be to your standards. Be ready to give a little bit (ie light make up, and light scented perfumes and slightly revealing clothing). Goodluck
i dont think its ok. these kids need to be just that - kids! it scares me the way some of these little girls look!
No Way I wouldn't let my kids be that way!!!
That is Unruly!!
I Never needed that stuff when i was 9!!!
she needs to lighten up on her appreance a bit because young girls like her should be modest but in touch with her feminine side and also know when and where to draw the line. first tell her she can wear women clothes SOMETIMES and make sure they arent too revealing maybe lether wear nice clothes but make sure they're for children please! let her wear LIGHT makeup. prehaps some light blush, lipgloss, and some light eyeshadow. she shouldnt wear grown up perfume too much. let her wear once in a while and if she refuses use bath and body works spray. they coem in different scnets and they arent too heavy. even though they're meant for the room just spritz a little around her generally and she'll smell nice but not over-powering. ( make sure she closes her eyes! ) and tell her she shouldnt use heavily perfumed body washes or shampoo. maybe sometimes like on special occasions but on a normal basis, usually let her use regular nice but not heavily smelling body washes or shampoos.
I don't think the perfumed body products are a big deal. However, her makeup should be limited to perhaps a collection of pretty lip glosses and her clothes should not be revealing.
no! i think that that is too young. I'm 12, and i just wear a little mascara, a tiny bit of clear lip gloss, and some bath and body works body splashes after gym class! i shop at forever 21 for some fun layered stuff that's not too revealing. see, i think that that's more reasonable! and im alot older than her.
NO!
wait about 4 or 5yrs and she can
perfume is fine,but the rest isnt right,her mother raised her wrong
no, plain and simple
not if shes wearing it out but i thinks it would be ok at home to let her play around with
When girls are around that age, they see all the older girls wearing make-up and those type of clothes. They want to be just like them so they try to do it. Really, all they're doing is experimenting. When they reach 13, 14, 15 they will realize that they don't like it anymore. Heavily scented body washes, shampoos, and powders are okay. They're just like any other soap but, well, scented. As for perfume, she should probably stick to little girl scents.
I personally don't think a nine year old has any reason to wear revealing clothes. They have no where to go and no one to impress. You should encourage her to dress like a regular nine year old does.
And as for the make-up. I did it when I was nine. She probably thinks its cool and she feels older and confident. Its completely harmless. The eyeshadow is fine, but as for mascara, I wouldnt allow it. At Taregt they have little girl make-up, so maybe you should buy that for her.
Hope I have helped you. Have a wonderful day!
The revealing clothes would be a no go and I let her wear some makeup but it would have to be put on lightly, give her the choice, dress her age and little makeup or none at all and she could have to wear sweats.
no way
dude she's gonna be a hooker when she's older!
fix her up
a couple spankins should do the trick (jk)
It's so unfortunate that every time I hear from a parent who is doing their job properly - the child thinks the parent is being mean.
Your step daughter is much too young to be acting and dressing like an adult. Her mother is a complete nut job and needs help. NO CHILD SHOULD WEAR MAKEUP OR SKANKY CLOTHES UNTIL THEY ARE AT LEAST 18!!!!!!!!!
no, those clothes and behaviours get them into to trouble with boys later in her life, with underage sex
I dont wear that, but what's wrong with it?
Let her enjoy her childhood while she still has it. She still has years to grow up so don't rush into anything to soon!
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